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Book Review: Still Looking by Vicki Huffman

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When I first submitted my family’s unemployment story to Vicki Huffman, I offered to write a review of her book once it was completed. Only God knew the reason and the season in which I would need to read the inspirational words in Still Looking: Finding the Peace of God in Job Loss.
 
 
When I received Vicki’s book to review several months later, my husband had been once again laid off for no fault of his own. Already, four weeks had passed since the day he showed up for work at his industrial construction job on a Monday morning and everyone had been let go. We were just starting to go through the familiar emotional, practical, and even spiritual fallouts of losing a job when I received the book. As I read through her family’s struggles with job loss—eight in all, I kept tapping the pages of my electronic book reader, saying:
 

“Yes! That’s exactly how I feel. That’s exactly how my husband is responding.”


 
 
Vicki was able to tap into those feelings not only from her own family’s experiences but also by citing renowned psychologists, experts, and everyday people who had the dubious honor of being unemployed at one time or another. She compared unemployment and job loss to the stages of grief and how those who are unemployed—for whatever reason—face similar feelings as those who have experienced loss of any kind—health death, divorce, to name a few. Vicki walks readers through the stages of grief, helping them to see the connections with job loss and how they eventually can move forward with the help of God.
 
 
As I read Still Looking, I began to see stages of grief in my own life—but for different reasons. Last year, I resigned from my corporate job at a Fortune 500 company to become a stay-at-home mom of our three children whom we adopted. Although a joyous occasion for my husband and me—and for our children, I felt the loss of fellowship with coworkers, usefulness and productivity that come from completing projects, and the accolades that accompany great work. I was able to see and work through these issues by reading Vicki’s book. She also helped me to understand the pros and cons of women working outside or inside the home, depending on their circumstances.
 
 

In addition to the emotional issues accompanying unemployment, Vicki offered practical and spiritual insight for times of job loss. She gave tips on how spouses can help and affirm each other during unemployment. As I re-read our own stories that we submitted to Vicki, it reminded me of the many ways my husband and I have supported each other during these times and how we can continue to do so.
 
 
Still Looking is filled with practical and spiritual insight on how to spend time during job loss, as well as other considerations that accompany unemployment, such as the possibilities of relocating and self-employment. Vicki also offers a unique perspective for those who are older and find themselves unemployed.
 
 
I especially liked the “P.S.—Post Job Script” sections that summarized each chapter and provided practical tips on how to move forward in recovery from unemployment. The “Peace to You” sections encouraged me with biblical passages and reminders of the peace of God when money is tight.
 
 
Oftentimes, books on difficult subjects tend to provide trite answers. Not so with Still Looking. It is fresh and original; Vicki Huffman has been there and she gets it.
 
 
From beginning to end, Vicki shows the joys of growing closer to God during times of financial strain. She is a great example of finding true peace during unemployment.
 
 
If I had one critique, it would be this: I would have liked for the book to include a set of study questions, whether at the end of each chapter or at the end of the book. That way, readers could work through the issues in each chapter more readily.
 
 
Regardless, I highly recommend Vicki Huffman’s Still Looking: Finding the Peace of God in Job Loss. It is a great tool to help readers through the valleys of unemployment—not once, but as in our case, several times. Still Looking is ideal for anyone who has a job and feels like it may be time to move on to another job or season in life, or they sense that unemployment might be imminent. It is a great resource for Bible study groups; readers can use it by themselves, with a mentor or counselor, or in a small group format. People in recovery groups also could benefit from it. The book also would be a great gift for someone working through issues of financial struggle.
 
 
Still Looking: Finding the Peace of God in Job Loss is available on Amazon (affiliate link).
 
 
Be blessed!
 
 
Come alongside… Have you experienced job loss? How have you dealt with it? Share in the comments below.
 
 

First Christmas

This Christmas is especially meaningful to our family. It will be our first Christmas with our three children, whom we adopted in August of this year.

 

We have been trying to point them to Christ during this joyous season—they haven’t had that influence in their three-and-a-half years in separate foster homes.

 

As we’ve decorated the house, we’ve stopped and read passages from the Bible. We’ve also created a book for them that explains the significance of our traditions:

 

  • The Christmas tree
  • Candy canes
  • Wreaths
  • Poinsettias
  • Gift-giving

 

And most importantly, the manger scene where baby Jesus came into the world.

 

As we’ve read to them, their eyes have filled with wonder and delight. They continue to look around the house in awe of a holiday that truly is more than lights and commercials. Everything we have done—and will continue to do—celebrates Jesus.

 

I know it is a turning point in their lives. It is for me too.

 

Explaining the real meaning of Christmas to a child—our children—has re-ignited a passion in me for the holidays. I find myself getting lost with contentment in the bundles of joy God has brought to our little family.

 

In many ways, it’s my first Christmas.

 

Is this a glimpse of what Mary felt on her first Christmas with the Christ of Christmas? Did she gaze at the marvel of God in her arms? Was she silenced by the Son of God on her chest? Did she whisper in His tiny ears that He would save us from our sins? Did she celebrate Jesus—God with us?

 

Truly, it was her first Christmas.

 

Throughout history, many families have celebrated their first Christmas—not one filled with lights and commercials but one that lifts up Jesus—God’s first and only Christmas to the world.

 

Forever, we will share the merriest story of all. Forever, we will treasure all these things in our hearts (Luke 2:19).

 

Thank you, Jesus, for that first Christmas.

 

Come alongside… Tell us about your first Christmas celebrating Jesus. What are your traditions?

 

 

A Co-Dependent’s Holiday Prayer

 
As a recovering co-dependent, I cringe at the onset of holiday season. I know—I probably shouldn’t say that–after all, the holidays are a joyous time. We celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
 
 
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That’s not the part that makes me cringe. It’s all the…

  • Expectations.
  • Hustle.
  • Frenzy.
  • Event after event after event.

 
 
Starting around Thanksgiving and through mid-January, stress and anxiety overwhelm me.
 
 
This year, I figured I would be proactive and pray continually. This is my…
 
 

Co-Dependent’s Holiday Prayer

 

 Father, thank you for this joyous season.

Thank you for sending Jesus to die for me

So that I could live forever with you.

 

God, you know how anxious I get during the holidays.

Help me not to look for approval from anyone—

Not about presents, events I plan, events I attend,

Not even about the way my home should look.

 

Help me not to let anyone’s frenzy zap my serenity.

I might feel the urge to rescue others from their over-commitments, Lord.

Help me to restrain myself.

 

Help me not to try to please others by putting myself and my family on the backburner

While spending so much time on what others might want.

 

Lord, give me the freedom to let my family be themselves—

Not to control their behaviors and appearance.

 

Help me to be myself,

Regardless of what others might say or think.

 

Lord, help me to demonstrate the true meaning of giving—

Not giving to others as a way of gaining their approval and exceeding their expectations.

 

Open my eyes to my own feelings as they arise.

Help me to step aside and regain my focus as I need it.

Show me what I truly want this season—a simple life that celebrates You—

The greatest gift of all—Jesus.

 

Amen.

 
Come alongside… What part of my prayer resonated with you most? Will you share this prayer with others?
 
 

Taking Time to Rest

You might know from my life story that I struggle with several chronic illnesses. You probably wouldn’t know it just from looking at me, though.

 

Like any struggle, some days are better than others. Some weeks are better than others. And maybe, if we’re fortunate, some years are better than others.

 

Lately, it hasn’t been as good for me. And I’ve been struggling keeping up with my writing goals.

 

I’m letting you know so that you will, first and foremost, pray for me, but also understand if you don’t hear from me as regularly.

 

I’m taking some time to rest.

 

You might struggle with chronic issues too.

 

  • Physical illness.
  • Depression.
  • Addictions.
  • Fill-in-the-blank.

 

We probably wouldn’t know it just from looking at you either. Some days might be better for you than others. And the same goes for weeks and years.

 

If it’s been good for you lately, I rejoice with you! And I encourage you to share with others who might be struggling in similar ways.

 

If it has not been as good for you lately, please let me know–I want to pray for you. I hope you, too, will take some time to rest, refresh, and re-energize—not with anything that comes from within you but from God Himself.

 

He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. (Isaiah 40:29)

 

 

I’ll refresh tired bodies; I’ll restore tired souls. (Jeremiah 31:25)

 

 

Come to me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads, and I will give you rest. (Matthew 11:28)

 

 

Remember, there is a season for everything (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8). I have had my good seasons, and they have lasted a long while. I’m so grateful. I’ve entered a not-so-good season, and I’m not sure how long it will last. But I do know one thing: I will be in a good season again.

 

Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. (Psalm 62:5)

 

 

Time to rest. I’ll be back soon.

 

Come alongside… What do you struggle with? What season is it for you? (Remember, you can comment anonymously.)

 

 

Spiritual Insight… Straight from My Bearded Dragon LeeRoy

This sight disturbed me and made my skin crawl at first.
 
As the days went by, a spiritual application revealed itself to me–courtesy of our bearded dragon, LeeRoy.

 

Before I share my insight, I’m curious… What do you see? What spiritual application can you uncover?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tell us …

  • How has this spiritual truth played out in your life?
  • How is it playing out in your life now?
  • What Bible passages come to mind when you see these pictures?
  • How can you apply them to your life today?

 

Looking forward to hearing from you.

 

Big hugs,
Daphne

 

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