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Go Ahead, Give Yourself Some Love


I’ve been wanting—er, needing—a massage for months now.


Yes, I said need—for my chronic pain, of course. 🙂


Seriously… right now, a visit to my massage therapist Debbie would do wonders for me—physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally, and even spiritually. But I’ve been depriving myself of it—for a number of reasons:

  • I don’t have time.
  • I don’t have the money—or I can use the money for something else—or someone else.
  • I don’t really need it now—I can make it a little longer.
  • I feel guilty.


Can you relate? Maybe it’s not about the massage for you. Maybe it’s:

  • Getting pedicures—yes, guys, you can get pedicures too. 😉
  • Indulging in chocolate ice cream—or ice cream, in general.
  • Snuggling with a book.
  • Taking a nature walk all by yourself. For us mothers, it could be just being by ourselves.
  • You name it.


What have you been depriving yourself of that would do wonders for you physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally, and even spiritually?


And now the bigger question:



Why have you been depriving yourself of it?



I’m not talking about unhealthy habits or addictions. Rather, I’m talking about those things that make us feel loved.


Please hear my  heart, dear one. You don’t have to wait for someone else to love you. Love yourself—Jesus said so!



Love your neighbor as you love yourself. (Matthew 22:39)



God’s not talking about a narcissistic, sinful, lustful kind of “love.” He says do good to yourself, look after yourself—your body, your mind, your soul. And this, not only when you feel you’ve earned it, but routinely and unconditionally loving yourself in healthy ways that say…



“I love God, and I love myself.”



That’s a hard thing for codependents: Loving ourselves. We prefer to look after others, sometimes forgetting about ourselves completely. We fear we’re not worth being loved. We deny our feelings—and many times, our needs. We don’t love ourselves.


But God loves you, dear one. And I’m sure you love God. And because you do, He wants you to honor Him by pausing from work, obligations, roles and responsibilities to spend some time on yourself. God gives you permission to love yourself. In fact, He commands you.


So go ahead, give yourself some love.



Hmm… Where’s Debbie’s phone number?



Come alongside… What makes you feel loved? Have you been depriving yourself of it? How do you feel knowing that God gives you permission to love yourself? What steps can you take to love yourself today? Share with us in the comments section below.


8 Responses to Go Ahead, Give Yourself Some Love

  • I NEED to go to the chiro today but I am putting it off because I have an appt scheduled in two days. Nevermind that I am in pain today, I am ignoring it because I have work, kids, stuff to do, etc. Thanks for the reminder that I need to take care of my body… now off to make a phone call.

    • Daphne says:

      Thanks for stopping by, Stephanie. 🙂

      One step at a time. You recognize you need a break, and you’re taking the first step to do that. Keep taking care of yourself.

      Big hugs,

  • I agree. It’s hard to pamper oneself at times. The older I get, the easier it becomes. I had a personal massage therapist come to my house last night. Pure heaven!

  • Fausel says:

    Thanks Daphne for giving the great information about love. In 1 John 4:7 the bible says that “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.” once again thanks for sharing with us.

    • Daphne says:

      Hi, Fausel! Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

      Good observation. I guess that would mean that if we love others–and ourselves–we know God. It is great to know Him!


  • Sally says:

    It’s important to slow down and give yourself a break from the hectic day and learn to love yourself and take care of yourself. God wants to bless you! He wants the best for you. Take the time out to take care of yourself. Stop listening to yourself giving you a thousand reasons why you should not. If you don’t take care of yourself and slow down then how can you be there for anyone else. Slow down and treat yourself to a day filled with things that you enjoy to do! It’s ok to pamper yourself!

    • Daphne says:

      Yes, Sally! Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

      Just this morning, I heard someone say that we waste time focusing on ourselves. I disagree with him. I agree that God wants us to take care of ourselves and any time we spend on ourselves is not wasted.

      Blessings to you, dear one.


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