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Got Questions While You’re Safer-at-Home? Me Too. (pt4)


Hi, friends!

How long have you been safer-at-home during this Covid-19 pandemic? Me? Since early-March. So about 10 weeks–I think. 😮 Wasn’t it the group Chicago who sang, “Does anybody really know what time it is?”

My routines are still going well. Sometimes too well. I might need to shake things up a bit. 😉 Do you also feel like you’re in the Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell movie “Groundhog Day“?

Mental health triggers have been minimal–partly due to distancing myself from too much news media (My apologies to fellow journalists and media industry friends.)

I’ve actually enjoyed not being as busy as I was prior to all this–and even at the beginning of staying at home, when I filled our time with activities and games.

This fourth question has been swirling in my head these last few weeks. Ready?


Here goes…


4. How am I staying connected?


  • Can I safely volunteer?
  • Can I safely help those with special needs–the elderly, immunosuppressed, etc.?
  • Can I safely attend community events?


Not so much. 🙁

All around us, the message has been social distancing, so most people have stayed home. As weeks have turned to months, the message has evolved to physical distancing–not necessarily social distancing. More and more, it’s becoming evident that connection is important to mental, emotional, cultural, spiritual–and even physical–health.

Have you ever seen that reality TV show, “Alone“? It’s on the History Channel. Ten participants are dropped off at a significant distance from each other on a remote location around the world. The purpose? To see who could last the longest. They bring only 10 items to help them survive in the wilderness. They’re provided with camera equipment and a satellite-operated communication device that they can use to “tap out” of the competition, at which time a helicopter or boat will arrive at their tracked location to take them home. My family and I love this reality show! (We’re excited about the new season in June.)

From having watched six seasons of “Alone” throughout the years, we’ve determined that more often than not, it’s not the lack of survival skills that makes someone tap out; it’s the isolation from family, friends, and loved ones–people in general. Even $500,000–the grand prize to the last contestant on the island–isn’t enough to keep contestants in the game. The desire to connect is that strong. Some have even constructed toy people or animals out of whatever they can find to have some sort of companionship. (Think Wilson in the Tom Hanks movie “Cast Away.”)
Despite the best of intentions, promoting prolonged isolation can have negative effects on our very being. Click To Tweet
God created us to connect and to be in relationship–with Him and with each other. Even as early as the Garden of Eden, God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).

Here are some other examples from the Bible about God’s design for community.


Let us think about each other and help each other to show love and do good deeds. (Hebrews 10:24)

Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. (Romans 12:15)


From Ecclesiastes
7 Again I saw something on earth that didn’t mean anything.

8 A man lived all by himself. He didn’t have any sons or brothers. His hard work never ended. But he wasn’t happy with what he had. “Who am I working so hard for?” he asked. “Why don’t I get the things I enjoy?” That doesn’t have any meaning either. In fact, it’s a very bad deal!

9 Two people are better than one. They can help each other in everything they do.

10 Suppose someone falls down. Then his friend can help him up. But suppose the man who falls down doesn’t have anyone to help him up. Then feel sorry for him!

11 Or suppose two people lie down together. Then they’ll keep warm. But how can one person keep warm alone?

12 One person could be overpowered. But two people can stand up for themselves. And a rope made out of three cords isn’t easily broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:7-12)



Pre-COVID-19, I stayed connected by:
  • Volunteering on the tech crew at my church, Lakes Church
  • Singing with the community choral group, Lakeland Choral Society
  • Visiting my elderly parents in their independent living community
  • Joining my closest girlfriends for breakfast the first Saturday of the month

I haven’t been able to do any of those things in the past ten weeks. But I have:
  • Called or texted those I haven’t talked to in a while
  • Added video to conference calls
  • Waved at our mailman from inside the house every day
  • Watched live concerts from around the world online
  • Joined my friend and fellow blogger, Kim Wilbanks, on her Facebook live tea times

Friends, connection isn’t just for the benefit of others. It’s for us too! We might think we don’t need it and that we’re doing it to help someone else. That might be true. But we’re also doing it for ourselves. And for those of us who are believers, we do it for God.



Take a few moments to listen to one of my favorites,
Superchick’s “We Live.”






Stay safe and healthy!


Big hugs,
Daphne

Come alongside… In what ways have you felt distant during this pandemic? What have you done to increase face-to-face or voice-to-voice activity? How has someone made an effort to connect with you during this time? How has staying connected helped you? Comment in the box below where it says, “Leave a Reply.” Remember, you can comment anonymously.


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3 Responses to Got Questions While You’re Safer-at-Home? Me Too. (pt4)

  • Karen Prough says:

    Hi, Daphne,

    I haven’t been checking messages or things like that on FB, but I can say I’ve kept busy. My husband and I have taken off on “road trips” on roads we know leads out into the country. It is something we enjoy.

    We join our church and friends for services online. I got out a list of phone numbers of elderly people I knew and called to check on them. They were surprised, and I could tell they liked talking about what they were doing.

    My husband isn’t able to go on long walks, so we haven’t joined in with the friendly neighbors walking the block early in the mornings. We wave to them and talk from our driveway. I do most of the yard work and Ed joins in with the riding mower on the center of the yard, but I do the push mower for around plants, etc.

    I love going out after dark and watering plants with the hose, instead of using the sprinkle. It’s cool out, and I can still wave to neighbors quietly walking by in the cool of the evening. Last night, under the street light’s glow, I talked to a neighbor who had just gotten out of the hospital that afternoon. He’s got cancer and had to go in for treatments. A few weeks earlier, I had helped him plant some bushes that he couldn’t take care of while in a wheelchair.

    We visit with my mother once a week or more often, by sitting in lawn chairs in her big back yard. And I fuss at her for not letting me go out and get things she and my brother need! But at 86, she can still work circles around most people. I might call her stubborn! 🙂

    We also keep busy by tackling our house projects–like cleaning out the garage! And the shed! Ha. My son and his family had a birthday surprise for me in April, which was fun. They showed up with cake and goodies!

    I took my husband out to dinner on his birthday this past week … actually ate inside … our table a good ways from other tables and people. Yes, we had to wait in our car for quite a while, until they called us in.

    We’ve had to make quite a few trips to the clinic for tests my husband has to have … which hasn’t been fun, but you got to do things like that. It isn’t comforting going into a clinic around other people … with what is going on in the world! And I hate wearing “the mask”! But, we must.

    We are doing fine and so are our two cats inside the house, one dove outside in a huge cage, and lots of fish in our aquarium! 🙂 Our black cat hates the algae eater in the aquarium and tries to capture him by hitting the glass with her paws. But aquarium in built into a wall, so she can’t get into it and “fish” for him!

    Hope everyone is doing well. This trying time will pass, and we all hope and pray it will not return in the future months down the road. Take care! God Bless you and your loved ones!

    • Daphne says:

      Hi, my friend.
      So good to hear from you.
      You are definitely busy. My hubby and I love going on impromptu road trips too. No particular place, just driving. Sometimes even several times around Lake H.
      Glad to hear you’ve had an opportunity to join online church services and talk to elderly folks. I often wonder about those who are homebound regardless of the quarantine. How glad they must feel to get a phone call or a letter in the mail. I know I am.
      Yes, my parents can be quite stubborn too when it comes to letting us help them. And they’ve had several appointments too, so I sometimes worry about that. But I’m thankful they’re careful when they do have to go out. We haven’t been able to visit. Their facility is on lockdown, which is probably for the best anyway.
      Our pets usually provide entertainment for us, but it seems they’re more entertaining lately. Or maybe we’re just that starved for entertainment. Lol. Actually, I quite enjoy their antics.
      I am so happy to hear from you, Karen. Please take good care of yourselves.
      Big hugs,
      Daphne

    • Daphne says:

      Oh, almost forgot…
      Your comment would make for a great blog post on your website. 😉

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