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Got Questions While You’re Safer-at-Home? Me Too. (pt2)


Hi, friends!

How are you doing? No, really–How are you?

To be more specific, how are you really handling this Covid-19 pandemic?

In my previous post, we talked about daily routines. How are you doing with yours? (In case you haven’t noticed, I’m one of those people who asks how you’re doing and really wants to know the answer.) 🙂 Are you sticking to as many of your routines as possible during this safer-at-home time? If not, head over to part 1 of this blog series to read some of the ways our family is maintaining some sense of normalcy while we’re practicing social distancing and doing our best to slow the spread of the virus. I also have some encouragement for you with Scripture verses and a song to add to your playlist. I also received great feedback in the comments! Feel free to add yours.

In this post, I’ll share question two.


Here goes…


2. What am I struggling with most right now??

  • What is triggering me?
  • How am I coping with added stress?
  • Am I distancing and redirecting as necessary?

Since this pandemic started to blanket the world, my bipolar disorder has remained relatively stable. (Maybe I should ask my hubby.) I’ve taken a few more “time-outs,” sitting quietly in my bedroom even for a few minutes and collecting myself before rejoining the craziness that is my home. 😀

A couple weeks ago, though, anxiety had crept in and slumped on my chest when the numbers in our state and county started to increase dramatically. The pressure was so bad I burst into tears and hid in my room for a bit. I was thankful for my hubby who slid the pocket door to our bedroom shut and lay on the bed next to me. His presence alone calmed me.

After some introspection and trying to pinpoint when I started to feel even the slightest panic, I uncovered the source: The news. Although I love numbers, I let myself obsess over the flood of information washing into our home and hearts. Have you done this too? It seems anyone and everyone has an opinion on the spread of the pandemic and how to curb it. I allowed myself to be sucked in by all the sources, viewpoints, and even conspiracy theories.

Then came the discussions. I’m not much of a debater; I don’t like confrontation, and I try to avoid it as much as possible. (Ask my hubby.) 🙂 But … this pandemic is a data mine of information and as a data analyst by profession, the sheer amount of information available to mine was like leaving a candy jar open on the counter in front of a child. My candy? The numbers–ones and zeros. Lots of them. The researcher in me wanted to get as much of that information to analyze the trajectory, speed, and extent of the spread of the virus. Listening to press conference after press conference and reading article after article, intensified a drive in me to “join the conversation” among data science experts.

But it wasn’t just the amount of information I was exposing myself to–and the various viewpoints. The seeming randomness of the virus was–and still is–unsettling. What if I’m in the group of people who gets it? What if my immune system is compromised or suppressed? What if I come in contact with someone and don’t know it? What if…?

I’m usually pretty good about what I let into my mind and heart. But this… this coronavirus isn’t just novel in name. It’s novel in its stealth. It made me feel helpless, like nothing I could do–or nothing I stopped doing–would make a bit of difference in whether I contracted it. That alone was enough for me to downward spiral–and without even noticing it.

Since then, we’re distancing and redirecting our attention. First, we’ve turned off the constant barrage of news. We check numbers periodically and rarely listen to the press conferences–unless a major announcement is expected. To stay informed, we’ve tuned into more state and local news, focusing on our local officials’ response to any developments.

The night when it all crumbled on me, we turned on something a little more serene. Little House on the Prairie, the story of a family on their Minnesota farm in the late 1800s. (Have you watched it?) At first, my children scoffed at the idea. But they stuck with it and seemed to enjoy it. I enjoyed showing off my knowledge of who was who in the show, what they were like, and how they were related to the Ingalls family. 🙂

Another evening, we played Bingo! I can’t remember the last time we did that. We’re usually a Yahtzee family. But someone recently gifted us a Bingo game with a Bingo cage! The kids were gracious enough to let me turn the handle on the cage. I didn’t tire of watching the random ball selector pick up a ball and shoot it down the chute. We even took the game up a notch: We played until someone filled up the entire card! The laughter was a much-needed break.

Since then, we’ve played several different games, including some practical jokes. Here’s a picture of us playing, what we call, Corona Yahtzee. Oh, and please disregard my “Quarantine Hair Don’t Care.”


By the way, I won the game. 😉

I’ve been feeling much better since we started distancing and redirecting. We’re also …
  • Playing jazz, classical, and worshipful music
  • Searching for lizards with the dogs
  • Watching online chapel services from my alma mater Lee University. (Here’s the chapel service from Thursday, April 9th.)
  • Cutting down on sugar intake
  • Using the mini exercise bike my hubby got me as a birthday gift at about the same time our governor issued the safer-at-home order. (You know–the ones that fit under your desk? I’ve even used it while watching television.)

It also helped that it was Holy Week leading up to Easter, so tuning in to our pastor’s nightly devotions titled “Journey to the Cross” helped to offset any challenges of the day. Pastor Aaron’s Easter sermon also was full of hope found in the resurrection of Jesus Christ.

I would be remiss if I didn’t also say that I’ve been careful to take my medications on time every time. Can’t mess with the chemistry! 😉

Friends, there are a lot of what-ifs surrounding this time. If we are not careful and intentional about managing potential stressors, anxiety can sneak up on us before we ever even realize it.

Here are some Scriptures I’m keeping in mind …


So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10)


Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go. (Joshua 1:9)


Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? (Matthew 6:25-26)


I sought the LORD, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears. (Psalm 34:4)


When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy. (Psalm 94:19)



Our world is turbulent and replete with questions that don’t have answers. But God has given us comfort and peace. In John 14:27 in the Bible, Jesus says, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” Let the Prince of Peace calm the turbulence in our spirits and grant us wisdom and strength as we navigate the waters of this storm.


Here is a song I sing to my children when we are lacking peace.





Stay safe and healthy!

Come alongside… What is stressing you out during this pandemic? How are you dealing with those triggers? Are you distancing? Redirecting your attention? Comment in the box below where it says, “Leave a Reply.” Remember, you can comment anonymously.


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2 Responses to Got Questions While You’re Safer-at-Home? Me Too. (pt2)

  • Terry Mann says:

    Thanks again Daphne for being so transparent and honest with us. I must say that for me, I’m enjoying this slower pace of life. I’ve totally gotten used to it. Not rushing around all the time and having all the time in the world to get things done around the house. I’m loving it. I do miss people and definitely look forward to being able to visit face-to-face again but in the meantime, I’ve enjoyed connecting with family and friends through the Zoom application. During my family “meeting” last week, my nephew introduced a home-version Scavenger Hunt game. We had 4 households participating. He called out a typical household item and the first back to the camera with it got 5 points, anyone else got 1 point, and 0 if you didn’t have the item. It was soooo much fun that I have now played it with my co-workers as a team-building activity and plan to introduce it to my larger team. I think God is using this time to help us build stronger bonds with loved ones and to give us a different perspective on life. I keep thinking of the verse in Isaiah 43:19 Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

  • Daphne says:

    Hi, Terry!

    Isn’t a slower pace so rejuvenating?

    I like the idea of using Zoom to play games with loved ones. I might just do that the next time we chat with my brother and my parents.

    I agree that God is using this time to strengthen bonds with loved ones.

    He is doing a new thing! I’m so thankful to be part of it.

    Thanks for stopping by!
    Hugs,
    Daphne

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