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My Drastic Estate


I love estate sales! I’ve been to two in the past month.


Intrigue and wonder fill me as I walk through rooms piecing together people’s lives from what they owned.


  • Clothes.
  • Cookware.
  • Tools.
  • Home Décor.
  • Movies and books.


Yes, movies and books.


You can tell a lot about someone by what they read, watch, and listen to. Even more, you can tell what will eventually be in someone’s heart by the movies, books, and music they own.


Become ITWhen I was younger, I read ultra-feminist-type books and magazines for teenage girls, listened to all sorts of music, and watched what could be considered “disturbing” movies. I was fascinated by it all—until I started seeing some of those same thoughts, tendencies, attitudes, and actions in myself. I didn’t know it at the time, but eventually I transformed into a woman who would not let any man tell her what to do, who had a filthy mouth, who couldn’t stop lyrics from playing in her mind—even in her sleep. As I woke up one morning, the first thing that came out of my mouth was “Danger! Get on the floor!”—lyrics from gangsta rap artist Mystikal.



Seriously—can you see me listening to gangsta rap?



Anyway… My movies, books, and music even went so far to include pornography.


I had years of deep-seated issues. When I finally set out to identify how I came to be that woman, I realized my movies, books, and music choices were a primary contributor to the person I had become. I had to make some serious changes to try to undo all those years of unhealthy programming in my mind and in my heart.


My choices were drastic to some, but I had to do it for myself. For years, I listened only to instrumental music—no lyrics, watched movies that had no objectionable material—and if they did, I would turn them off. I threw out books and magazines with immoral and suggestive content. I set similar limits on my online surfing.


Today, I listen to music with lyrics again, but I’m still very careful with its content. I’m still very strict with my books, magazines, and computer content. And movies—it’s strange to me that movies I enjoyed years ago—and knew inside out—now don’t pass my test.


Listen to what the Bible says:


Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. (Philippians 4:8)



I try to ask myself:


  • Is my music gracious and beautiful?
  • Are my movies pure, honorable, and respectable?
  • Are my books and magazines praiseworthy?
  • Is my favorite Internet content moral?


Even more, do I see glimpses of myself in any of my books, movies, music, and Internet content?


The Bible says:


Don’t live any longer the way this world lives. Let your way of thinking be completely changed. Then you will be able to test what God wants for you. And you will agree that what he wants is right. His plan is good and pleasing and perfect. (Romans 12:2)


Put another way:


Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is. (Romans 12:2)



His ways are good and pleasing and perfect, dear one. He grants us peace when we allow Him to renew our minds and restore our hearts.


You will keep in perfect peace all … whose thoughts are fixed on you! (Isaiah 26:3)


He can change the way we think. He can undo our drastic estate.


The first step is up to us.



Come alongside… What kinds of movies, books, magazines, music, and Internet content are you welcoming into your mind and heart? Who are you becoming? Will you allow God to transform and renew your mind? He can!


8 Responses to My Drastic Estate

  • Such an honest post Daphne. But I can certainly relate. What we immerse our minds in affects our thoughts. I remember when I was having a hard time sleeping and every time I woke up there was some secular tune playing through my brain. Not that it was that horrible — but I did a fast from all music except Christian, on my iPod and radio. When I woke up in the middle of night, the lyrics and music were much more soothing. Going back to sleep was so much easier. I agree. What may be be trouble for one person, might not affect another. Even the same person might have different books, music and movies bother them at different phases in life. We all need to be attuned to Holy Spirit about what is not good for us at the moment and obey those promptings.
    Jamie@SouthMainMuse would like you to read…Saturday Long Run Drama. Vlogging My Leg Color.

    • Daphne says:

      Thanks for being honest, Jamie.

      It is true that what can affect us in one season of life may not bother us in another. I agree that it takes a lot of self-awareness and constant transparency with God and ourselves about the impact of certain things on us. It shows an ever-increasing maturity and intimacy with Him.

      Thanks for sharing.


  • Kellie says:

    All so true Daphne! I just read this quote from Beth Moore:
    “God’s Word must be in the deepest recesses of our mind, where even in our sleep we are thinking different, dreaming different, meditating different.”

  • Jo Anne says:

    Good blog post! The songs we sing, in particular, condition our souls. Also, the books we read and movies we watch. It all integrates into our consciousness and colors who we are and how we view the world. One of my recent blogs reflects that theme:
    You’re right on. If we chose our culture and our friends wisely, our soul can stay above water!
    Jo Anne would like you to read…The Songs We Sing…

    • Daphne says:

      Thanks for stopping by, Jo Anne.

      It does integrate into our consciousness, doesn’t it? It’s amazing–and disturbing–to me how things just “pop up” in my mind that I don’t even remember how they got there. It calls for us to be more intentional about our media choices, for sure.

      I will definitely check out your blog. 🙂 Thanks for sharing it.


  • Rick W. Howe says:

    Loving the tools our generation has available to us provides hints on the lessons that preceded their existence.

    Take the computer and the Web, for example. Both have ways of keeping track of our past behavior, patterns we have followed, and the results we’ve received.

    Being honest about the challenges we face and receiving the help we need from those who have dealt successfully with the same issues is a road to recovery, but we must remember that in life, there are few one way streets, and many will be going in the opposite direction, asking us to join them. Then there are the disecting roads, fog, high beams and distractions.

    Dealing with all of these sources of viable information and stimuli must not sway us from what really matters, to ourselves, to those we care about, and to those we haven’t even met as yet.

    • Daphne says:

      Great points, Rick.

      Being honest about our challenges and receiving the help we need is so important to moving forward in life. And you’re right: Many will try to get us onto their paths, which may be similar or dissimilar to ours. We must keep our eyes on the prize.

      Thanks for stopping by.

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